I don’t know about you, but stuff like slash and shipping two male characters? That’s not some weird, childish, feverish girl-crush thing. That’s not me being horny thinking about two men kissing, and I’m pretty tired of being labeled that way, as some frothing, hormonal fangirl. As crazy.
Men get to be default characters. In everything. They aren’t tied down. They aren’t “the girl.” They’re interesting.
They’re equal. They’re free.
When I ship male characters, it’s because I want that for myself. I wish I could be a man in a relationship with another man—because they don’t have the same baggage, the same limitations. They aren’t trophies or objects or accessories. I want to be equal and free, too. It’s the hottest thing I can imagine, really. And the fucking saddest thing, because I won’t ever get it. I will never get to be that equal or free.
I wish I could have a Dean/Cas or a Derek/Stiles or a House/Wilson for myself, and it’s not cute, and it’s not frivolous, and it’s nothing to laugh about.
But I’m a girl, so I’m stuck.
So that’s why I slash. And I’ll knock your teeth in if you treat me like I’m silly for doing it.
This. A million times this. Thanks for putting it in words.
But I want to add just a eensy-weensy footnote: I do find it really hot when two good-looking dudes kiss. It’s not the only reason I ship Dean/Cas or Garrett/Anders, obviously; in fact, it’s pretty far down on the list of reasons why I find these relationships so endlessly fascinating.
But I think as women, we tend to be shamed (and we shame ourselves) enough as is for our sexual preferences. So I won’t apologize for liking it when good looking men get filthy with each other, and I won’t pretend that I don’t like it (not that you were pretending anything, euclase!) if someone tries to shame me about it. And they’ve tried. Oh, how they have tried.
The way I figure it, if a guy can be aroused by two girls having sex without anyone accusing him of being weird and silly, or a crazy, childish fanboy, then surely I can demand the same treatment for the equal and opposite situation.